On Wednesday, writer Stephen Elliott filed a lawsuit against Shitty Media Men list creator Moira Donegan. Though Elliott refers repeatedly to the list being â€œpublished,â€� it was actually a Google Sheet emailed amongst colleagues. Elliotâ€™s entry in the list included â€œrape accusations, sexual harassment, coercion,â€� so heâ€™s seeking $1.5 million in damages for the harm heâ€™s suffered since the list went live. Itâ€™s hard to keep track of time these days, and though itâ€™s felt like a million years, the Shitty Media Men list was created only a year ago. Elliott believes he deserves that much money for the damages heâ€™s suffered in one year. These damages occurred mostly, it seems, because his book did not sell as well as heâ€™d hoped. From the actual lawsuit:
Elliott wants to collect these damages not only from Donegan, but from others who contributed to the open-access Google Sheet. And he wants them to be tracked down via their IP addresses so that he can find out who said what about him, and then they can be added to the lawsuit.
The main point of Elliottâ€™s lawsuit is that thereâ€™s no way he should be on the list of shitty media men because heâ€™s into BDSM. You read that right.
He later clarifies, that yes, he meant BDSM:
Being into BDSM doesnâ€™t make you not a sexual harasser! Conflating consensual sexual behavior with inappropriate professional conduct is the neverending hat trick of those accused of the latter. But thatâ€™s not how it works. Harassment and sexually predatory behavior, especially in the workplace, is not comparable to past consensual behavior.
Elliott also argues that he deserves all this money because his name was included on the Shitty Media Men list to intentionally damage him.
The Shitty Media Men list was not created to damage the reputation and career of anyone listed. It was a version of a whisper network that women used to warn other women about bad experiences theyâ€™d had within their professional circles. Itâ€™s not about the shitty menâ€”it was created to help women working in the media industry avoid the shitty men and not have shitty experiences.
Last month, Elliott published an essay titled â€œHow an Anonymous Allegation Derailed My Life,â€� in which he denied the allegations and described the effects the list has had on his life, just like Jian Ghomeshi and John Hockenberry before him. And it seems that Elliott has an interesting choice of attorneys on his side: Andrew Miltenberg, who frequently defends men accused of sexual misconduct. Miltenberg defended Paul Nungesser, who Emma Sulkowicz accused of rape in April 2013. So far Elliottâ€™s suit is the only legal action thatâ€™s arisen from the list, but Miltenbergâ€™s involvement in the case isnâ€™t a good sign.
These shitty media men are pushing their stories back into the public square, rewriting context and details to elicit sympathy, and now, actually demanding financial redress for harm suffered. Itâ€™s a sickening replay of Judge Brett Kavanaughâ€™s confirmation hearings, in which the abuse suffered by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford was reframed into a horrible injustice done to Kavanaugh.
In these #MeToo backlash narratives, with the help of editors and lawyers, men are given the spaceâ€”on the page, in the courtsâ€”to carefully craft their response to the past year. But why should we believe theyâ€™re telling the truth just because theyâ€™re trying to get the last word?